How To Have A Healthy Christian Marriage
How to make sure your marriage is secure from the inside out.
We see examples of young love everywhere from our local communities to the big-screen blockbusters. But the idea that love is free and easy isn't one grounded in reality. A healthy marriage takes effort and work and two people who choose each other every single day. .
Here are some ways you can have a better relationship and build your faith in God as a couple.
1. Make money matters a joint decision
In some of the most ideal marriages, money management is a team effort. While both parties should be involved, someone must be in charge of the final responsibility. Remember to take into consideration your unique life situation, choices and abilities.
2. Keep your courtship alive
Keep the romance alive by remembering and doing all the little things that you did when you first fell in love with each other. It could be as simple as stealing 20 minutes of alone time at the end of each day, heading to the movies or even planning regular date nights. Devote yourself to being present in your marriage and get creative. The sky's the limit!
3. Live the Christian life together
Whether it means praying together every day, setting aside time to study and reflect on the Bible or actively participating in church activities together, make God the connector in your life. Over the years, it develops more things for you to have in common, more reasons to ask God and your spouse for forgiveness instead of lapsing into cold silence and helps you remain faithful to the church of Christ.
4. Keep the lines of communication open
Every marriage has its fair share of extended family, financial ups and downs, health scares and parenting challenges. But having honest, open communication is the best way to get on the same page quickly, work through conflicts and express our emotions in a Christlike manner.
5. Ask for help if you need it.
Sometimes we come up against a crisis that we struggle with and can't resolve. Whether it is something you are dealing with between each other or something with yourself that is affecting your relationship, be open to asking for help. There is no shame or judgement in looking to a trusted mentor, taking a course, finding a book on the subject or talking to a more experienced couple who share your beliefs.
6. Make intimacy a priority
Screen addiction is on the rise and any number of responsibilities can creep up on us and leave us drained and exhausted. It's easy to fall into a routine and forget to connect with your partner as man and wife. While there is no one blanket rule, the lack of intimacy can weaken even the strongest among us.
For young Christians today, having a practical understanding of what it takes to make a committed relationship work is essential. The good news is, once you understand these fundamental tenets, many things become more evident and often more manageable while you work to build a healthy marriage.